8 Sure Signs Your Relationship Could Be In Trouble (Without You Even Knowing It)

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When people ask us what's one thing they can do to get closer in their relationship, we give them a suggestion
that goes something like what we talked about in our free teleclass we gave this past week...

If you want to get closer, one way is to focus on getting on the same team.

This seems so obvious but "getting on the same team" and getting the two of you lined up in the same way and focused in the same direction is one of the real challenges of relationships.

We can tell you from personal experience that when both of you work as a team as you move through life together, you can literally conquer anything and everything that gets in your way of keeping the passion, love and connection alive.

When it comes to great examples of "getting on the same team," you don't have to look any further than sports for inspiration, especially this time of year when the NCAA college basketball teams are gearing up for the "big dance."

Since we're from Columbus, of course we follow our Buckeyes and are excited the men are #1 right now in the standings.

As we've watched college basketball and other sports, especially the Cincinnati Reds baseball team, we've come to some conclusions about winning teams...

*It's not only talent that creates a winning team but it's also the way they work together as a team

*In winning teams, individual roles are clearly defined

*Individuals on a winning team appreciate their teammates and build them up. You don't hear them talking badly about each other.

*Winning teams have a sense of community and working toward a common objective. They are lined up in the same direction with the same purpose.

What does this have to do with your relationship?

Plenty.

When you take the time to get lined up and get on the same team, everything's easier. Disagreements are less intense and don't last as long--and passion and closeness are greater.

The problem is that most couples don't feel they're always (or even sometimes) on the same team.

What do couples do when they aren't on the same team?

1. Become aware of what you do as a habit that pushes your partner away.

For Susie, it's stopping herself from being pushy and interrupting Otto and just listening when she gets irritated or tense. She has to slow herself down from jumping into finishing his sentences.

For Otto, he has to remember Susie's not the enemy and stop himself from getting into "fight" mode when he gets triggered. He has to remember how delicious their closeness is to him and not fall into fighting or withdrawing from her.

2. Find ways to stop whatever habit you have that takes you from feeling like you are on the same team.

For us, we have to be aware of the urge to do whatever is a habit for us to do when we get triggered by something and then make a conscious choice to remember our commitment to listening to understand where the other is coming from.

Not always easy, we know, but when we remember that our love is more important than "being right," we do get on the same team and resolve whatever has separated us.

Does that mean we become doormats?

Of course not. We find ways to express what we're feeling so the other can hear. We find ways to work out our differences. If you want some "magic words" to say when you're at odds with each other.

For you, we suggest you become aware of what takes you away from being aligned with your partner.

Take a moment now and write down one thing--maybe a small thing--that you know if you stopped doing it, the two of you would feel more in alignment with each other and on the same team.

We invite you to practice that "one thing" this week and see what happens in your relationship.